Starting over is too complicated
Sex for the midlife woman who is exploring new relationships can be especially challenging.
You're not alone if the very idea of establishing new sexual relationships seems overwhelming. While you may not feel the need to live up to idealized images that rule young lovers' lives, you may be paralyzed by the fact that you aren't your younger self any more.
But we think you'll find that thriving sexually energizes you -- and that can energize your exploration of new relationships.
You have an advantage over younger women in that you've had more time to learn about what you want and need. At our age, intimacy rules. Generally speaking, at midlife the quality of our relationships determine the quality of our sex.
Still, there are things you need to know. So do read on:
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First published 01/13/2010 Last updated 06/29/2010
Learn how your body's changes affect your sexuality.
Understanding what's changing can help you keep sex enjoyable.
Enhance comfort by caring for your vaginal and vulvar tissues.
Compensating for lower hormone levels means taking care of yourself.
Increase sensation in genital tissues.
Taking more time, energy, and attention can re-awaken our sensations.
Maintain tone in the pelvic floor muscles.
Exercising these muscles encourages circulation and strengthens orgasms.
Build intimate relationships.
Having emotional bonds is essential for good sex after 40.