I've lost interest in sex
Losing interest in sex is not really a loss unless it bothers you or interferes in important relationships.
If you miss taking an interest in sex, miss the physical and emotional benefits of an active sex life, regret its loss in your relationship, or would like to leave the door open to an active sex life in the future, then rekindling your interest is a worthy pursuit.
Loss of sexual interest, or libido, is extremely common in midlife women and often reversible for many of us. We all experience some effects from the change in our hormone levels. Many of us also experience conflicts in our relationships, traumatic experiences (like the death or other loss of a partner or loved one), high stress, serious illness, or side-effects of medications.
There are cognitive, physical, and medical therapies available to help restore or lift your libido if and when you want to.
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First published 01/13/2010 Last updated 06/29/2010
Learn how your body's changes affect your sexuality.
Understanding what's changing can help you keep sex enjoyable.
Enhance comfort by caring for your vaginal and vulvar tissues.
Compensating for lower hormone levels means taking care of yourself.
Increase sensation in genital tissues.
Taking more time, energy, and attention can re-awaken our sensations.
Maintain tone in the pelvic floor muscles.
Exercising these muscles encourages circulation and strengthens orgasms.
Build intimate relationships.
Having emotional bonds is essential for good sex after 40.