I avoid sex in my relationship

Some relationships just don't lend themselves to healthy sexual expression. Lots of women avoid sex when they have been betrayed by or become afraid of their partners, or when communication habits or physical distance have built walls a couple just can't climb over.

Many women avoid sex because of some experience in their past. They may have experienced physical, sexual, or emotional abuse, or they may have problems with attachment or rejection.

Depression and anxiety experienced by one or both partners can wipe out sexual expression, too.

Sharing our sexuality can bring a lot to a good relationship. But it can't fix a bad relationship. And it's impossible to build intimacy in a relationship that doesn't feel emotionally or physically safe.

If you're in an unsafe relationship, please get help. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is one way to find it quickly.

If you're in a relationship that needs some work, start with a good couples counselor.

If your history is hurting you, a good counselor can help a great deal.

Start with healing your situation, and let intimacy follow on healing.