As we grow older, we have less blood flow and less sensitivity in our genital tissues. We're not as quick to become aroused. A woman may interpret the lack of arousal as a sign that she just should give up on sex. But we hope she doesn't take it that way!
We don't give up reading when our eyesight gets worse — we get a pair of reading glasses. We can compensate by taking more time, energy, and attention to awaken or re-awaken our sensations. Using tools — personal or small vibrators for women, an intimate compact massager, warming lubricants, or clitoral pumps — is an excellent way to increase self-awareness and sensation. So take a deep breath and try some of the suggestions below.
First published 01/13/2010 Last updated 07/18/2011
Learn how your body's changes affect your sexuality.
Understanding what's changing can help you keep sex enjoyable.
Enhance comfort by caring for your vaginal and vulvar tissues.
Compensating for lower hormone levels means taking care of yourself.
Increase sensation in genital tissues.
Taking more time, energy, and attention can re-awaken our sensations.
Maintain tone in the pelvic floor muscles.
Exercising these muscles encourages circulation and strengthens orgasms.
Build intimate relationships.
Having emotional bonds is essential for good sex after 40.